I want something... by hook or crook?
I am trying to get a better perspective of how things work in lif. Maybe I am thinking aloud and maybe these might be questions rather than my thoughts for everyone to ask themselves...Straight to the point- One can get desired things in various ways- primarily two...get it from someone or buy it...there is another one -steal it but i wud suppose most of us won't go that way.
Now, if we were to get a poll, how many of us wouldn't like to get things gifted to us from our forefathers or inherit a wealth from our ancestors and be born with a silver spoon. I guess no one would say NO. Another question, does that mean that all of us would be ready to ask our parents to buy us things which might not be that expensive for them but definitely expensive on "common man standards". Probably. Y is the question?
I would assume the following reasons:
1) We don't want to be a burden. Lez make clear that our wishes would not be a burden for our parents but definitely we all know that they would have to cut down on something. Money is always scarce as i wrote in my previous post.
2) It's just not one's nature to ask for things.
3) Any other reason that we can think of?? Not me.
Do the above reasons sound good enough to not ask your parents for something. hmmmm. think.
Lez start with the second one. I would say it is a good habit but probably doesn't have a reason behind it except that our parents buy us things which they want to and we are happy with it. But this also helps a person grow mature and not ask for things all the time. Its like having a logic n not a reason behind something.
Now the first reason, makes perfecty sense to me because there are so many things which our parents have to see to which we cannot possibly even fathom. Our wish/desire would be their topmost priority and we would never get to know what they missed for it.
Now lez play devil's advocate and look at reasons for asking your parents to buy things for oneself and reasons behind it:
1) One doesn't want to waste his/her money
2) One doesn't feel that his wishes would burn a hole in their parents pockets
3) One is into a habit of doing so
4) One is not concerned about it since one thinks there is no difference in the person buying stuff himself or parents buying it for him.
Ok. now first reason I would hard to believe. Maybe not in the setting wher we live but hold on..you can still find some people like that. happens to people who have had really miserable childhoods.
Reason #2 : nice reason but then back to the question, is money enough for all needs that one's parents know. I know nobody can find that out so kind of a not so solid ground. If somebody has that much to spend so much, better charity a bit. happens to kids who have never been tretaed as elders in their house or never given responsibility to understand the working/needs of the house.
Habit is the most common thing that you would come across. It starts with small things and then grows into big thigns and then leads into everything. Kinda fast evolving curve and before one knows one just takes for granted that everything is to bought by parents. Be it anything.Big or small. Needed or wasteful. But anything. Happens in single-child families most where every attention and thing is for that single kid.
Last reason, hmm... i would say that's right in some sort. Especially if soembody is very closely knit in the family and has always lived at home but then i can very well tell you , this would last only till a time that person starts earning. Reason you can decide on your own. I would say this is just a temporary phase of life and exists till one has his/her own existence.
Now, if we were to get a poll, how many of us wouldn't like to get things gifted to us from our forefathers or inherit a wealth from our ancestors and be born with a silver spoon. I guess no one would say NO. Another question, does that mean that all of us would be ready to ask our parents to buy us things which might not be that expensive for them but definitely expensive on "common man standards". Probably. Y is the question?
I would assume the following reasons:
1) We don't want to be a burden. Lez make clear that our wishes would not be a burden for our parents but definitely we all know that they would have to cut down on something. Money is always scarce as i wrote in my previous post.
2) It's just not one's nature to ask for things.
3) Any other reason that we can think of?? Not me.
Do the above reasons sound good enough to not ask your parents for something. hmmmm. think.
Lez start with the second one. I would say it is a good habit but probably doesn't have a reason behind it except that our parents buy us things which they want to and we are happy with it. But this also helps a person grow mature and not ask for things all the time. Its like having a logic n not a reason behind something.
Now the first reason, makes perfecty sense to me because there are so many things which our parents have to see to which we cannot possibly even fathom. Our wish/desire would be their topmost priority and we would never get to know what they missed for it.
Now lez play devil's advocate and look at reasons for asking your parents to buy things for oneself and reasons behind it:
1) One doesn't want to waste his/her money
2) One doesn't feel that his wishes would burn a hole in their parents pockets
3) One is into a habit of doing so
4) One is not concerned about it since one thinks there is no difference in the person buying stuff himself or parents buying it for him.
Ok. now first reason I would hard to believe. Maybe not in the setting wher we live but hold on..you can still find some people like that. happens to people who have had really miserable childhoods.
Reason #2 : nice reason but then back to the question, is money enough for all needs that one's parents know. I know nobody can find that out so kind of a not so solid ground. If somebody has that much to spend so much, better charity a bit. happens to kids who have never been tretaed as elders in their house or never given responsibility to understand the working/needs of the house.
Habit is the most common thing that you would come across. It starts with small things and then grows into big thigns and then leads into everything. Kinda fast evolving curve and before one knows one just takes for granted that everything is to bought by parents. Be it anything.Big or small. Needed or wasteful. But anything. Happens in single-child families most where every attention and thing is for that single kid.
Last reason, hmm... i would say that's right in some sort. Especially if soembody is very closely knit in the family and has always lived at home but then i can very well tell you , this would last only till a time that person starts earning. Reason you can decide on your own. I would say this is just a temporary phase of life and exists till one has his/her own existence.
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